Do you remember when you were young, and the person you sat next to in school became your best friend…? Or the other kid in class with the same dorky backpack (I mean, awesome backpack) started chatting you up and you became inseparable? Remember how easy it was to make friends, and keep friends? You saw each other every day at school, usually lived within a few blocks of each other, talked to each other on the phone 15 minutes after leaving each other, and knew every little thing about each other.
Then we get older… We grow up, move out, live on our own, set up our own home bases, work jobs, have kids… The world changes. We try to keep in touch with each on social media, comment here and there, watch our kids grow up, watch each other lose hair, get grey, have celebrations. We feel like we are still involved in each others lives. I mean, we know things about each other, we know what is going on in each others lives… We are still close, right? Has the world of social media given us a false sense of friendship with people? I could tell you 10,000 things about my best friends and what they have been doing over the last few weeks… But how many of these things came from their mouths?
Its a hard slap in the face when you realize that you have not been a good friend. We all get caught up in our own lives as we get older. We spend time with spouses, with children, with co workers, with hobbies, and sometimes just enjoying that rare moment alone and in silence. When are we supposed to “fit” friends in? Sometimes, being an adult is difficult, and the decisions you make aren’t always the right ones; they don’t always point you down the right path; they hurt others; they hurt us. Opening up to others can be hard if you are used to just posting quick blips on Facebook. You build your walls, don’t want to let people in. But, you need those people in order to make it through life. Need to keep your friends close, tell them your secrets, make regular plans with them, hug them, be able to reach out and know that they will be there if you need them. Going through life is like a big game, and friends are cheerleaders. Don’t let them down and they won’t let you down.